Convincing people 101

Convincing is skill you really should take care about because your whole life depends on decisions you have to take, and not everybody around you thinks the way you do. So most of the time you will need to convince them or live alone if you can take it.
I’m not a convincing master but I’m not giving up on learning and that’s the key point in every thing, keep learning.
I’m going to list some points that came up in my mind to optimize that skill.

1. Do not get angry at any level.
Anger destroys conversation and changes it into a fight to prove you are right rather finding the best solution (finding the best solution is the goal of every conversation, isn’t it? )
So to avoid anger don’t argue in facts or beliefs, only argue in ideas or opinions because arguing in the first two will get the other person angry and eventually you’ll be angry too.
And of course I don’t have to mention to have a bit of self control and don’t get angry for trivial reasons.

2. Do your homework.
If you know previously what you are going to talk about think about all the possible questions that the other person may ask and try to get a clear answer for them.
It will make you more confident while talking and you will answer faster, your confidence and speed will make it a lot easier on you to convince the other person. So always be prepared.

3. Know when you’re wrong.
Its so important to realize that you’re wrong if you are, because arguing for a bad idea is really a bad idea ! It’ll just make your position weaker and you’ll probably lose the argument unless you’re arguing with a dumb.
Also arguing for something you know it’s wrong will decrease your credibility over time and believe me you need it.
And remember, the goal of any conversation is finding the best solution not proving you right because sometimes you’re not.

4. Play in their field and win.
If the other person gave you an example or asked you “what should I do?” you have to turn that on your side and prove your point in their example or tell them what you would do if you were in their position.

Again, I’m not an expert, I could be wrong so if you have better ideas or any feedback on those let me know in the comments please.

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